Depression, anger & feeling sick of this shit.

[Blink]

Hi,

Firstly i'm not clinically depressed, far from it. Life, for the whole of it, is mint.

However, just recently i've been feeling like I'm sick of this fucking life situation. I was sat in Uni. this morning, thinking "what the fuck am I doing here, I don't feel any association with these people?". I feel like i'm living a life which I'm simply not happy with.

I'm 22, and thinking I should just bail out and start a fresh.

Has anyone managed to turn their life around? What the fucks going on?
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The only way to get rid of a temptation is to yield to it.

[J0Al1]

Bailing is the easy option. We all feel like that from time to time. It probably won't make it easier in the long run. Stick at it

[Blink]

Cheers dude.
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The only way to get rid of a temptation is to yield to it.

[GodzGift]

Keep yourself busy get a job
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[qwerty killer]

just think where do i wanna be in 5 years and do it, if you dont have a plan you plan to fail.
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[Dragonfly]

[D O G]

I bailed out of uni in year 2, with four more to go, thinking it was not for me. I think really it was other issues that I was running from (not that it worked).

Eight years on and looking back it wasn't such a bad decision (although manning up at the time would've been better!). Life is pretty good now.

Don't kid yourself that your contempt for the community you're in will neccesarily change when you're in a different environment. I find I don't relate to 99.9% of people.

If you don't like your course, but are near to the end, and likely to leave with a worth degree (2:1 ar above), then stick it out. It will be worth it for the options it will open up.

As someone else said, have a medium term, achieveable plan, as it does motivate. Around three years ago I figured out that th Uk was not for me, and have slowly worked up to the point of being about to leave. Be realistic about timescales.

[Blink]

Thanks guys, I really appreciate every input into this thread.

[D O G]

[Visitor Q]

Everyone (whos not in uni) forgets how weird the stress is, you get it highly concentrated in week doses. Ive always said you only need to work 1 month, maybe 2 a year cumulatively. The rest is dossing about playing PS". But when you've got work, YOUVE GOT WORK. And it looms at you day and night until the deadline day.
I want to do a masters, but i have to fuck off for a bit. I liked uni, but like you every now and then you just feel totally alone.
It doesn't help that if you're half intelligent you don't need to sorround yourself with a safety net of friends to help you do work, which kind of stops those close-knit circles of friends we usually look down on until we feel depressed.
But i tell you, the realisation you've only got a few months left hits you for six.
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[D O G]

[Blink]

Damofo - Mate, cheers for the insight into your life. I know what you mean...If I quit for good i will already reinforce the view that i'm a failure. (I deferred after my 1st year to travel - everyone thought I wouldn't come back).

I too had a weed habit from 17-19. Did it all the time, sadly that was the times when I was making the big decisions, like uni. When under a constant haze of good smoke, the easiest, not the best, option always seems appealling. You find that?

I'm starting to reform, going running etc, working at a hotel part-time but days like today just feels shitty. It kind of ties in what bonny_ricardo says.

Bonny, i presume you're a good self teacher? me too. Days like today I have fuck all to do and it's quite simply shit. My only chance for today is to wander into town alone, (housemates at lecs), then probably get really anger-pissed tonight.

It's good you got into accounting. I was thinking of progressing on my computer skills (used to make fantastic money doing e-commerce sites before I came to Uni)? But, to move back to Aus, I know I need some paper qualifications.

It will be hard to face quitting for good. My estimations in the eyes of my friends/family is already low. I used to be looked upon as the intelligent one who makes good decisions. Now my pre-useless mates are all getting on with their lifes and i'll be back to where I was at 18. But then again...it's my life right?

Bonny, have you graduated now? Thanks for the input guys. Can't say how appreciated it is!
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[AJI]

Uni sucked for me for two of the three years. The course wasn't my thing at all and I didn't have anything in common with anybody. All my best mates were having an awesome time back home, they'd rented a flat, were going out to gigs etc and I was stuck at uni.

Third year, I changed. I got sick of moping about, went out loads in the first week of term with my flatmates who were freshers' reps, and met dozens of people who I'd never spoken to before. Got pissed a lot, had loads of banter each night and the next morning. Went to a careers seminar and decided what I wanted to aim for (Journalism, I'll be starting a Masters this year, using my business degree as a stepping stone). Got a 2.1 in my degree after working my ass off, started going out with an amazing girl, had a fucking awesome summer and two great holidays.

If you're feeling like you're in the wrong place now, it is possible to change things around. May sound clichéd but life is what you make of it. I was a miserable git throughout 2005/6, then had the best year ever last year.

So basically: stick with it
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[D O G]

[pa_broon74]

Only decent counter for depression is a good sense of perspective.

Yup, my job might be crap, yes my bike is a sewing machine and yes, I'm still single.

But I'm not seriously ill, I atleast have a job (and the trappings that go with it; roof, food mad money etc etc etc.) My bike goes (maybe not very fast) but its better than no bike and umm the single thing... Eh... Uhuh, I'm thinking...

No thats still shite.

My point is, have a look at the news and see the human suffering that's going on in the world (here and abroad.) If those people can find a way to live with their lot, it makes it a little easier for you to live with yours.


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[lofty]

Try and stick at uni if you can, I am only in my first year, two to go, and I really don't like it, but if I stick at my degree (Oceanography) I know that I can get away from all the stress of where I live etc in a few years, and go travelling, or move somewhere like Australia to work.
I, like you, feel that I have nothing in common with anyone I am at uni with, all they do is get trashed. I live at home, work when im not at uni etc, so it's a bit different and because of this only a few have bothered trying to be proper mates with me.
Chin up!

[Blink]

I feel i've come to the age where I can achieve what I want without a fucking bullet-point on my cv. That's how I feel, but I don't want to look back at my life when i'm 30 and think that my own arrogance destroyed my future.

I feel i'd be more at home doing a college course in motorbike mechanics/graphic design than in a seminar room full of privately educated upper-middle class aspiring lawyers/parental leachers.

Oceanography sounds so interesting. Sadly, I chose to do International Politics, with becoming some well-paid financial advisor/security services personnel but i've changed from that person I was at 18 to now. Gutted. I realise I love the outdoors and despise materialism. I was happier driving around Melbourne in a fucking 10 year old truck moving peoples furniture.

Wow, I sound bitter. Once again, thanks for the input.

pa_boon, I respect your positive perspective! Cheers.
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[TUG]

Keep at it mate, am in the same boat and have been since the age of 6 onwards, i keep waiding through the shit an get little rewards but then get knocked down again.
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[Blink]

Cheers. Hope the motorbike mechanics is goin well for ya. I remember asking you bout that last year.
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The only way to get rid of a temptation is to yield to it.

[Robby]

If you have a decent reason to stick with the degree, and it sounds like you do (moving to oz) then stick with it.
However, if you want to drop out of uni, you're allowed. If you really hate it, why not leave and get a job - a proper job that is, not a mcjob. If you want to you can always go back to uni after a few years.

A very clever man gave a talk at my school once, and he said something that stuck with me. In the long run, life all made up of options and choices. If you go to uni, you get access to more options in life than not going to uni, but if none of those options appeal to you, you don't have to go there.
The school was very competitive (Top 10 in the league tables AKAIK). He was never invited to talk at the school again, and his name dragged through the mud by all the staff, because he suggested that there was a life other than going through uni.

I never went to uni. If I had gone, I would have been lazy, and ended up with a 2:2 or worse. That wouldn't have opened many doors for me. I got a job instead. I've been there 4 years now, and I'm getting the graduates with crap degrees as my staff, and graduates with good degrees as my bosses. The amusing thing is that they all value me, because whilst I don't have a degree I do have some experience in the job, and its worth a hell of a lot more than a degree.

[colin1]

Whether u stay at uni, or jack it in, its what you do afterwards that counts.

I fucked up my degree, but stuck at it rather than dropping out. I got a low grade so its not worth much, and the experience sapped my confidence, so I have never really made much effort to get decent jobs.

I know of a couple of people on bcf, who dropped out of uni, and then went on to get good jobs.

One by getting into a good company that trained him up with useful skills, then when things werent working out he found something else that was good.

Another guy was doing an ok job that got boring after a while, but built on his experience to do a training course that got him a much better job.

So your problem is not the dilema of whether to stay at uni, or leave, its staying motivated on achieving things either way.

Another thing thats worth mentioning, is even if you feel you don't fit in with people on your course, try to, as a lot of jobs aren't advertised, so if they have connections that get them good jobs, they could be your connections one day. If you know and stay in touch with a lot of people you can find out about opportunities.

I don't know or stay in touch with that many people, but the only reason I have a house, is that a guy who i used to work with, told me about a job that was going. It turned out to be a goldmine as there was loads of commission, and I got the deposit for my house far quicker than I would have otherwise.

Its not what you know, its who you know.

If you ever lose motivation, try looking around and seeing people who are successful but aren't that much better than you if at all, and ask yourself why you shouldn't have what they have ?
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