He has been lieing all this time

[posh_spice]

Right befor i start excuse me if i dont use any punctuation or anything, i just recived some shit news and can barly tipe.

i have been having a brill laugh with this guy for 8 months, he asked me out, we made it official, everything seemed brill.

terns out for the last 8 month he has been telling his ex that we arnt goin out and that he miss' her and a whole load more lies.

i see him everyday pretty much, he might as well live at my house and we are quite close. now i have realised the last 8 months have been one massive fairy tail. nothing was real.

i dont know what to do. i dont think i deserved this.
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[Itchy]

To put it bluntly ... move on...8 months is a blink of an eye in life so just chalk it up to experience deserving and not deserving isn't really an issue as justice does not exist in the world.


However you can always entertain a bit of childish revenge, you may perhaps like to try to capisicum oil on the inside of a condom trick and enjoy the blood curdling screams , I cut some chillies once and went to the toilet without washing my hands BEFORE taking a whizz , it hurt alot, capicisum oil is ALOT stronger. £10 from Stuart.
Or

https://www.chilefarm.co.uk/pure_cap.html (dangerous if they have allergies but hillarious).


Or perhaps writing on the back of his bank paying in book "hand over all the cash and nobody gets hurt" (dangerous).


Remember you live in the UK I've said it many times before women have all the power in relationships you can say yes/no go out there and take your pick, while men have to go out and 'try their luck' by asking people out.

But don't get all bitter and twisted about this, there are good and bad being bitter and twisted just lessens your opportunities in the future and you may experience a desert period....

A word of warning btw:

https://www.sciencelab.com/xMSDS-Capsaicin_Natural-9923296

Oh and remove all milk / yougurt/ice cream/beer/etc from the house BEFORE you try this trick , and turn the stop tap of the house off too.
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[yambabe]

[Dragonfly]

I went out with a lad once for a few months and we planned to move in and all. As we where looking places he turned around and said to me he was lying about everything! even down to the last detail and he didnt even want to be with me. Crushed me that. Needless to say that ended things and I never seen him again. And it was hard to trust after that. But that came from the horses mouth. As babyyam pointed out where did you hear this from?

if its turns out to be true you dont deserve it. Get out and enjoy your summer. If we ever have a summer again.
It is harsh when a fairy tale romance just suddenly ends like that.
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Muzza on Binge:
He's too busy beating the everloving shit out of Lizzie to notice this thread has taken a turn down Drama Avenue and stopped off at the popcorn shop.

[posh_spice]

I was being a bit rude but i had a gut feeling and had to fallow it up...so i read his e-mails. for which i am sorry, and have said sorry.

Befor you ask this was the first time i have "snooped", i just had a horrible gut feeling, terns out you should trust your instincts.
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[yambabe]

[kitty kat]

[Dragonfly]

Posh dont be sorry for reading his emails your gut instinct was right anyway. You not the only one thats single today hun
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Muzza on Binge:
He's too busy beating the everloving shit out of Lizzie to notice this thread has taken a turn down Drama Avenue and stopped off at the popcorn shop.

[JonB]

Whatever happened to respect to privacy.

Maybe i'm an odd one here, but even in suspicion I wouldn't raid myself through a loved ones emails, mail, texts whatever. It just aint on.
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[yambabe]

[Shaun]

[JonB]

Haha, yeah, but thats just different. ALRIGHT!

Babyyam you have a point, but where does it end? I bet some bint who regularly checks her boyfriends mail to find nothing NEVER tells him what she has done.

The lack of trust and honesty is the problem here, not the fact that he has cheated, maybe if she was more open to communication in the first place rather than sneaking around just like her other half has done then maybe they could learn to talk and be honest.

There are so many people on this forum that are the first people to cry out "I hate CCTV cameras and ID cards, I don't like the fact my privacy is being infringed" yet seem to be able to accept personal invasions of privacy.

I'm not condoning what he has done, however.
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[bazza]

[J0Al1]

Poor you. It's horrid I know, but he is really not worth the care! Better you know now.

I've been there, was fed the crap. It's all just so thay they can keep their options open and don't give a shit about anyone elses feeling. Selfish time wasters!

better luck next time

[Andy C]

[J0Al1]

[JonB]

Andy, my girl knows all my passwords as well and it doesn't bother me. It would bother me if I found out she was abusing my trust though.
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[posh_spice]

I dont think he actually cheated though. He says he has never touched anyone else.

I just dont understand why he would lie to his ex if it wasnt to get her in bed.

AAAARRRG! Things are so poo.

Me and him are still talking though. I dont see any point in being bitter and I will always stick by the fact that he is my best friend.
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[sickpup]

[Weedy]

[Fortuna]

I've just come out of a relationship where my GF lied about things.
I have to say I resorted to reading emails and her phone texts just to get the truth.
What's the point in being with someone who f*cks you around.
You did the right thing and followed instinct, how else would you have found out if they lie to you? You'd probably still be there now still having doubts.

[Endless Nameless]

[posh_spice]

Cheers guys and gals.
Feeling better now! Already organised a night out on the town tomorrow, so bring on the blokes!
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