deaths

shadowbiker · Traffic Copper Joined: 14 Oct 2009 Karma :

ive recently had a family member pass away, they died a natural death. but i just cant come to terms with it very well, how do you get over your family/friends deaths ?

another thing thats upsetting me is that it was my great gran now my gran ( the daughter of my great gran ) can no longer lift things very well so shes very deverstated by it but shes asked me to help carry the coffin. but its annoying me because she really wants to do it. Sad

she has taught me so much that it just bugs me now that i wont be able to help her with the things shes taught me to do

RIP betty 28/1/1912 to 26/11/2009

Alexio · World Chat Champion Joined: 27 Aug 2009 Karma :

My condolences for your loss. My Grandmother, also called Betty, passed away last year.

The best way to deal with it is to remember the good times and how she made you happy along with other people that knew her.
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will never give up his CG. I look at my fuel gauge more as a progress bar than a fuel gauge.
G: With my GSXR I do often effectively use it as a scooter with a clutch in town.
ms51ves3: why does it need 500 miles? Are you teaching it how to be a piston?

shadowbiker · Traffic Copper Joined: 14 Oct 2009 Karma :

Alexio · World Chat Champion Joined: 27 Aug 2009 Karma :

Then you might need to find yourself something that you can 100% apply and distract yourself with for the moment. When I need to I always have a project or a challenge than I seem to be able to engross my entire life with at need.

Once your feelings now start to calm down then this ought to take it's natural course anyway and all will become better, I promise.
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will never give up his CG. I look at my fuel gauge more as a progress bar than a fuel gauge.
G: With my GSXR I do often effectively use it as a scooter with a clutch in town.
ms51ves3: why does it need 500 miles? Are you teaching it how to be a piston?

shadowbiker · Traffic Copper Joined: 14 Oct 2009 Karma :

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cvntdude · Spanner Monkey Joined: 22 Nov 2009 Karma :

Pics or it did not happen TIT 50 ... Rolling Eyes

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Wilson123 · Nearly there... Joined: 19 Jun 2009 Karma :

I've never lost someone so close to me that it's really hit me hard and I'm not looking forward to when it does, my Grandad died last Thursday after years of battling emphysema. I feel so sorry for my Dad, his brothers and of course my Grandma who now has nobody Sad

I've always been reminded that we all die one day, so as long as you enjoy your life before you pop it there's no reason to be upset Thumbs Up

I just hope I can think the same way if I outlive my parents Thinking

I hope you feel much better about your loss sooner or later, if your gran was here now she wouldn't want to putting holes in doors and such Confused

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map · Mr Calendar Joined: 14 Jun 2004 Karma :

lostboy · Crazy Courier Joined: 03 Sep 2009 Karma :

to all who have lost someone my condolences but remember the good times and time is not the great healer but it does help.
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Fawbish · World Chat Champion Joined: 27 Jan 2006 Karma :

Syx · World Chat Champion Joined: 20 Oct 2006 Karma :

My mother died when I was in my teens, and I'm yet to "get over it". I accept that she's gone but I still get upset about it from time to time - I don't think I'll ever really get over it and just be okay with the situation; it's always going to be an important and difficult memory.

Vincent · Banned Joined: 16 Oct 2006 Karma :

My Mom passed away a few months back and it was one of the worst experiences of my life so far Sad

The hospital was a shithole and he nurses were being really rough. To top this, much to my Mums amazement, she was put n a mixed ward and was next to some old hobo. It was all a bit too undignified for me.

Time is the healer - apparantly.

cvntdude · Spanner Monkey Joined: 22 Nov 2009 Karma :

shadowbiker · Traffic Copper Joined: 14 Oct 2009 Karma :

cvntdude · Spanner Monkey Joined: 22 Nov 2009 Karma :

Your threats and words are meaningless, you can't back fuck all up, your full of shit, and i'd rather engage in bestiality that be anything like you ... prick ... Middle Finger

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shadowbiker · Traffic Copper Joined: 14 Oct 2009 Karma :

cvntdude · Spanner Monkey Joined: 22 Nov 2009 Karma :

lmao ... pot, kettle, black ... you've just stated how the majority of BCF members proberly feel about you after your mutiple shit, .. you may find many annoyances from me kid, but not one lie in over a 1000 posts, and if your lying about this death for sympathy then your even more flawed and desperate than i consider you at present .... dickhead, in scuds words, of the highest order ... Middle Finger

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Numptie · Renault 5 Driver Joined: 28 Oct 2009 Karma :

Ste · Not Work Safe Joined: 01 Sep 2002 Karma :

So is this story real or is it another piece of creative writing?

Numptie · Renault 5 Driver Joined: 28 Oct 2009 Karma :

Ste · Not Work Safe Joined: 01 Sep 2002 Karma :

Numptie · Renault 5 Driver Joined: 28 Oct 2009 Karma :

I don't know Tony/Shadowbiker whoever.

It seems rather bizarre for people to post fictional accounts; however when we consider the world of emotion: dealing with death: it is not the specifics that matter. It is the emotion itself.

This is one reason, why fiction is irrelevant in accounts of personal experience of death; those who fictionalise deaths.....if fictionalising can even be used in any correct sense of the word here, are merely being inauthentic about their position. Inauthentic about their emotions; inauthentic about being anything. Especially, inauthentic about being themselves.

When we consider equally, how this is the default position, in which human beings, reach out to others, then you will see......there really is no difference then, between the inauthentic human, who strives to pull the wool over others eyes; and the inauthentic human, who does not know that he is doing it. Neither are worthy of distinction, because neither are striving for authenticity in relaying their experience.

What you describe in the end of your statement...'it's quite fair enough to question ..... if x's story is real...'.....yes. Yes. This is indeed the default position for the modern world. We are sceptical of anything and everything we read. Particularly, anything that might be authentic or inauthentic. Not that we have the acumen, to separate the two anyway.

So again; what does it matter? If someone 'fictionalises' what he says; he is out to impress others; impress others of what he has been through; impress himself that he might be more than himself; impress others, that he is not the dowdy self that he might be. And again on the opposite hand, if Cassandra speaks the truth which is too unbearable to hear, why should we not be sceptical? Why not just shut down the whole forum board, so that we don't need to differentiate between fiction/reality?

Sorry...that's just the small point I was making about why reality/fiction is not of concern to me.

cvntdude · Spanner Monkey Joined: 22 Nov 2009 Karma :

Good for you, now carry of with you authentic ramblings to some joker whos nan is proberly alive and well, waste your time and effort, fictional account and posts derived from them matter little to you aslong as you get to type .. ! ... ridiculous ... Surprised

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