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PostPosted: 04:04 - 10 Jan 2012    Post subject: Riding past an old accident scene Reply with quote

Ok been sorting out exams and what not for university finally sorted to get my theory out the way. However one dilemma I have come across basically the best place that I can get to when I do my Mod1 which is going past a location where an extremely close family member died due to a negligent company causing the RTA.

Now don't believe in religion or anything like that however when ever I go near it my mind doesn't think straight for some reason. Most probably because I'm still human not emotional. Even forgetting where I am sometimes.

IF I want to ride down south or London this is one of the best routes to take however so just reaching out a bit and asking has anyone got any tips when riding past a location like this.

(Although this is BCF will understand some stupid replies however please be a bit considerate)
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PostPosted: 09:28 - 10 Jan 2012    Post subject: Reply with quote

MTFU and just do it until you get over it. What other answer did you expect?
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PostPosted: 09:39 - 10 Jan 2012    Post subject: Reply with quote

The longer you avoid going past there, the harder it will get for you, sadly.

Whilst you say you're not emotional about it, your mind will still wander as you know what happened there.

I would suggest continuing to use the route regularly, and try and think of it as a road rather than a scene.
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PostPosted: 10:16 - 10 Jan 2012    Post subject: Reply with quote

Rogerborg wrote:
MTFU and just do it until you get over it. What other answer did you expect?

Was kinda expecting this reply to be honest roger, wondered if anyone else had encountered say similar incident roads.

JP7 wrote:
The longer you avoid going past there, the harder it will get for you, sadly.

Whilst you say you're not emotional about it, your mind will still wander as you know what happened there.

I would suggest continuing to use the route regularly, and try and think of it as a road rather than a scene.


Thanks for the reply, have been past it several times recently only as a passenger tho never had a driver/rider; was thinking it might distract from riding/driving potentially causing another accident.
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PostPosted: 11:11 - 10 Jan 2012    Post subject: Reply with quote

Go invite a bird for a picnic...
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PostPosted: 11:40 - 10 Jan 2012    Post subject: Reply with quote

Think of the good things about your family member, associate the area with pleasant memories and it will be more tolerable. Other than that, mtfu is about all there is left to do.
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PostPosted: 14:11 - 10 Jan 2012    Post subject: Reply with quote

Apply logic to the situation. It is a piece of road like any other.

In fact, why not stop and go have a wander about to confirm this?

I know where you're coming from with this. I recently went back along a piece of road that two years ago a good friend died on. It was a hard ride. I went and stood on the spot where I did CPR on him while we were waiting for the air ambulance while his bike was on fire behind us.

It's just a piece of road. There is no trace at all of what happened other than a slightly newer road surface on that corner.

One thing I can tell you for sure is that my friend isn't there. It's just a road.
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PostPosted: 14:22 - 10 Jan 2012    Post subject: Reply with quote

stinkwheel wrote:

One thing I can tell you for sure is that my friend isn't there. It's just a road.


You just went up an extra few notches in my book big fellah Thumbs Up

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PostPosted: 16:26 - 10 Jan 2012    Post subject: Reply with quote

Ride down the road I lost my mate to every single day, also ride down the road I nearly lost my life.

Its tarmac. It gets me places.

That is all it is, otherwise I'd get emotional everytime I went to the hospital.
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PostPosted: 21:12 - 10 Jan 2012    Post subject: Reply with quote

Stinkwheel has summed everything I might have said very well. Thumbs Up
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PostPosted: 23:05 - 10 Jan 2012    Post subject: Reply with quote

stinkwheel wrote:
Apply logic to the situation. It is a piece of road like any other.

In fact, why not stop and go have a wander about to confirm this?


Actually think this is what caused my problem in the first place with the scene every year I have to go up with a relative to the exact spot at the same time of death every year (done this 4years so far).

stinkwheel wrote:
I know where you're coming from with this. I recently went back along a piece of road that two years ago a good friend died on. It was a hard ride. I went and stood on the spot where I did CPR on him while we were waiting for the air ambulance while his bike was on fire behind us.

It's just a piece of road. There is no trace at all of what happened other than a slightly newer road surface on that corner.

One thing I can tell you for sure is that my friend isn't there. It's just a road.


Thank you for sharing this as others agree very helpful and insightful just a piece of road is what I have got to get my head around. Literally know it myself just not when I'm near the scene as a passenger. Might be different if I'm riding past it though focusing on other things.
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PostPosted: 03:06 - 11 Jan 2012    Post subject: Reply with quote

Either you are flouncing everytime you pass the point or you are suffering some form of PTSD related issue.

Its up to you to be honest with yourself and either grow up or get help. You can ask your GP for a psychiatric referral.
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PostPosted: 14:02 - 11 Jan 2012    Post subject: Reply with quote

Just ride it. Ride it carefully, seeing as you're going to be thinking about the person, but don't avoid it altogether.

I find a similar thing, seeing as the road where Zimma had his fatal crash is 200 yards from my parents house, and a fun one to ride. He always pops into my mind when I ride it.
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PostPosted: 14:10 - 11 Jan 2012    Post subject: Reply with quote

Robby wrote:


I find a similar thing, seeing as the road where Zimma had his fatal crash is 200 yards from my parents house, and a fun one to ride. He always pops into my mind when I ride it.


I do recall thinking that road had 'death trap' stamped all over it at the time... didn't know Zimma's crash was there...
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