Stress and shit

[P.addy]

I don't actually want to post this, but its starting to annoy me now.

I've worked out over the past 6 months I seem quite bad with money, I procrastinate a fair bit, I'm also feeling like I'm getting quite lazy and I'm becoming a little annoying/arrogant and would really like to nip these pretty quick.

I always feel stressed due to the above stuff, I used to have a huge fuse, but my temper seems to be getting far worse and its showing with the people close to me.

I don't want to turn out like a dick and actually think I can be pretty nice, helpful and easy to get on with...

The money side...I get paid, I see what I need to buy for the month and buy it there and then.
I then have the usual outgoings...I could reduce these as some are pretty useless but are around £3 and £5.

I used to be on medication because I was such a bean and was depressed because I'd basically ruined my life by making the wrong decisions but hopefully I've come past that stage as I feel far better in myself.

Just looking for any advice to reduce all the stressy shit I've listed above.. I've booked a weeks holiday from work near the end of the month just so I can have a breather...but I'd like to start turning my life around...

[Hetzer]

You're going to die, so just how seriously should you take anything between now and then? Meet your needs, have fun, be nice and stop giving a shit.
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[Sload]

As said relax a bit. Have a read, I like number 5, so simple but very true https://www.inspirationandchai.com/Regrets-of-the-Dying.html
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[AL-]

You seem like a decent bloke judging from when we met and our chats etc so if you ever fancy a drink or a ride anytime let me know, if I can help I will


You are still gay though

[_Troy_]

Although i agree with the above, how about some constructive tips -

Money-wise. Why not make a list of all your outgoings each month, take note of your income and then divide it up between the weeks before next pay day. Mark off all the essentials, food etc, and then set aside an amount you can just 'throw away'. It may not stop you spending your money, but it will make you feel more in control of it all, and at least you'll have a record of where it all went.

Alternatively, set up a new account with an automatic direct debit each pay day. Could be as little as £20 going into it each month, but it'll soon start to grow.

Procrastination - I'm the king of this shit, seriously. My day job sees me having daily deadlines or work, and i'm just about sticking to them. The easiest way i've found is to make a list of the things you need to do, and break these things down to small tasks. Then you can cross them off one by one. You'll see/feel a sense of achievement and it'll spur you on. If you work at a computer, check out www.teuxdeux.com - very simply To-Do style list site.

Laziness - Also king of this. I find that if i get up and go to the gym, get out of bed at least, and make sure i'm doing something i feel much better. I also find after a week of going to the gym i have more energy and more motivation to get up and do something with my time. I haven't been to the gym this week and it's pissing me off, so next week i need to get back into the routine.

Umm, i probably have more advice, but this'll do for now.
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[P.addy]

Mmm, I'll definitely take you up on that drink sometime AL- Could do with getting out of the house.

Good idea with the whole writing down and working out, I like maths so should help me a little there.

I try to get out, bike has no MOT, cars clutch went and I need to return the Monster tomorrow so I'll be back to hoping, thats adding to stress central!

I had a savings which transfered £100 a month, that was a bit high but reduced to £40, which I started taking back out anyway to pay for petrol...so its kinda stopped being transferred. Like I said, shit with money like that.

[AL-]

Are you any nearer to getting the car fixed? If not then i'd make that the priority so at least you can get to work and back

[P.addy]

Money to fix car, thats the issue.

Clutches seem to cost a fair whack... I lack this right now so I'll be blagging lifts/riding with no MOT or some crap.

[AL-]

[P.addy]

Parts all together is around £190

[AL-]

I can lend you some to get you on the road again

[P.addy]

Oh no you can't. I can't accept money from people, seriously...Its something I just can't do

[AL-]

Well my offer will stand if you decide you can

[P.addy]

Thanks AL-

[DrDonnyBrago]

You need to stop giving a shit about inconsequential crap.

If you are becoming lazy and procrastinating I'd hazard it is because you are bored shitless with your current line of employ. No idea what you do for a living, but if you are skint AND unfulfilled then I'd consider leaving it for something more fruitful.

As for becoming a short tempered, arrogant and cynical dick, it happens to the best of us . The world is full of self serving troglodytes and pandering to their opinion isn't going to help anybody.

[Alpha-9]

[P.addy]

[D O G]

I reckon all blokes transiting the early 20's have a bit of a crisis. You start realising that just fucking about and not caring about the future is not the path to a happy life, which hurts.

It hurts for two reasons:

1. You have to stop having so much short term 'fun';
2. You realise that you have to take responsibility for yourself, and lets face it, responsibility is such a drag.

Powah through that shit, it'll get better, recognise that your boyhood dreams will not be realised and reset your targets.

I desperately wanted to be a l33t engineer (like CHR15) in my late teens/early 20's, fiddling with sweet machinery. Now I sit at a desk playing with spreadsheets and drive a 1.25 fiesta. I'm happy tho.

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[P.addy]

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[drzsta]

Im the tits at procrastinating! but I find that if I keep an achievable overall goal of where I want to be in the next 1/2 years in sight then I can muster the motivation.

For me, it's an occupation specific goal that will improve my overall income and general wellbeing. Currently an electrician that fucks about in council houses doing remedial works and testing - job is mind numbing and not my idea of engineering that I want to progress in.

I want to get either a job on the national
Grid or with siemens as a turbine tech.

Therefore I have focused on getting as many qualifications as I can e.I. CompEx, 2391 etc.


I know it dosnt make alot of sense to you, but all I'm trying to say is try and focus on an achievable goal, it will give you the motivation and drive. Try not to get hung up on the little stuff.
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[Mikey3]

If it helps I am in an EXTREMELY similar situation by the sounds of it.

I'm going back to college to re-study (public services really doesn't get you that far, even if it's the highest level), but you seem happy at work so I'm not going to suggest that, the only thing I will say, is that enjoying the job is equally as important as the pay IMO, infact, if I got a job which paid a tad less than mine, but was far better, as long as it covered the bills, i'd take it.
Considering the amount of time we spend at work, it's important to enjoy it to a level.

I'd also recommend exercise, it's proven stress relief, and you feel a bit free-er when you go for a run, well I do at least. Not to mention it does your self confidence the world of good when you start seeing improvements, and it starts raining between womens legs . But seriously, it will make you more confident, and hopefully less arrogant, if that's how you feel you're becoming (I feel the same at times). Maybe also take a moment of your day to do something which will benefit someone else, a perfect example would be stopping to help a broken down biker, I feel good when I can successfully get someone going again, yes it doesn't happen every day, but you get the gist.

Another way my counsellor told me when I was in it was to write the things that are getting you down on paper, list them or whatever works for you, then, rip up, burn, shred, whatever to the paper, apparently its some mental stuff, meant to help you 'let go' of the short term stresses, and remember, they are [/b]Short term[b], they will end, and things will pick up.
My dad has a bit of paper on his fridge that says 'everything will be alright in the end, if its not alright, its not the end'

I'd also recommend going to watch the Avengers, as the final leg of the road to happiness .

HTH, and think positive

Mike
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