How to live your life...

[Feasty]

I'm getting bored of disagreements with the wife, we've been married nearly 20 years and have a 9yr old kid. Most arguments/disagreements occur because we have different standards - I like to live life chilled out, don't let negative things bother me too much. For example, if we get bad customer service over something I'll complain a bit to try and get a response but then give up and move on thinking it's not worth the stress. Especially if it's not something I'll really care about in 5-10-20 years time.
Having said that, I bother enough to have never been out of work. I have a decent job, we have a decent house in a nice area, good schools etc - I just don't push myself...

'er indoors on the other hand, never lets things go. It gets a bit embarrassing when she constantly complains about something because it's not quite up to her standard. She works hard, does lots of hours - works a lot harder than I do and earns less money, but that's her choice. The cleaner is a good example, we've been through about 6 now because they never quite do a good enough job. I was happy with the first one!

So how do you live life, chilled out? Or live it to the max. Have you got high standards you expect everyone else to match up to?
____________________
Previous: Aprilia Habana Retro 50cc (beauty), Yamaha SR125 (fell apart), Honda XR125 (nippy little commuter), Honda SLR650 (Geewhizz), Yamaha Diversion 900S (Smoooooth) written off courtesy of a stupid escaped horse.
(7 year gap), BMW F650 (Relaxing ride). Aprilia Caponord ETV1000 (Big and bold). Yamaha FZS600 (got me in trouble too quick!).
Current: Yamaha TDM 900 (Comfy, light but big, power when needed).

[andyscooter]

a quarter mile at a time

I'm chilled about things the wife worries about everything

I think this is why we are as strong as we are together

she will try to save money for everything and get the best deals for things all the time even if it means having a lower quality

I will buy the better quality product at whatever price eg:- steak

she will buy medallions for a few quid

I will buy either fillet or t bone or something
____________________
gilera runner vxr200 (chavped)
if its spelt wrong its my fat fingers and daft auto correct on my tablet

[steveh]

With the least amount of stress possible, I've learned over the years that there is more to life than stressing about work, things you cant alter, and friends that aren't really friends.

I do what makes me, my smaller circle of friends and my girlfriend happy.
So I can safely say, at this present moment in my life, I'm the happiest I've ever been.


keeping the garage full of motorcycles helps also.
____________________
Current : 06 Zx10r, 07 Wr450f SM, 74 850 norton commando, 63 bsa b40, 1962 Triton 650, 67 Triumph Tr6r, 1955 Triton 750, 1978 TY250E.

[Derivative]

The main attitude I try to take is that our stress should be independent.

I can worry about X, and you can worry about Y, and providing there's not a fundamental clash between the two we can get on with it independently.

I don't care whether we have sun dried tomatoes or dolmio, if you do, figure it out

[CaNsA]

[angryjonny]

This year I've finally learned not to stress about things you cannot personally change. It's quite liberating.

The wife and I are both worriers, to some degree. But we tend to worry about different things at different times and as we know what it's like we can support each other through it.

She copes by planning everything. I cope by refusing to plan. Somehow, between us, it works out.

[recman]

Home life is pretty stress free. Mrs has more or less eased up on me doing things as I've worked hard over the years getting the house/garden in a reasonable state.
We now have time, energy and a little more disposable income to do things without involving offspring.
Work frequently pisses me off or rather the management pisses me off.
Constant cock waving contests with me as a pawn in their battles is becoming tiresome.

[skatefreak]

Sounds like my situation - 10 years...
The wife is constantly pushing and striving to get ahead at work, she's 110% dedicated and should be earning a lot more than me...

I'm idling along in a decent job, we have the mortgage, doing the holidays/travelling, I have my track bike and R1, car running on Veg and other project's etc but she's a lot more up tight and I'm a lot more relaxed in general.

I was hoping over the years she'd calm down a little but nope, still pretty highly strung.

I'm not sure where it will end up to be honest, she may eventually get sick and tired of my lack of 'ambition' and taking the time to live my life now but the way I see things, it's not worth pouring all my free time into a job, I'm already 30 and physically its downhill from here on out. I don't want to wake up at 55 and regret sacrificing my most capable and active years sitting at a desk.

At the end of the day it's a personal choice, I'm surprised how many people seem to be in relationships where 'standards' and 'drive' differ so much. I was getting mildly concerned that we were a bad match but I'm sure we'll be fine.

Just out of curiosity, how does it work out when children pitch up on the scene? My wife still insists that once we have a child motorbikes become a past time .

That one's going to create some real friction I recon

[Rogerborg]

[grr666]

I'd hate it if me and the Mrs were the same. We agree on very little, different politics, different work ethic,
different ways of dealing with issues. It keeps things interesting. 15 years together at the end of the month.

I wouldn't change a thing.
____________________
Currently enjoying products from Ford, Mazda and Yamaha
Ste wrote: Avatars are fine, it's signatures that need turning off.

[Tracey Suntan-King]

Let's face it life is a nightmare, from beginning to end.

So much to stress about.......... illness, infirmity, loss of loved ones, being made a fool of, losing out. Terrorist attacks, lack of money, low interest rates, high interest rates, crime, accident, freak weather, microbes, bacteria, chemical warfare, road rage, mechanical failure (at speed), tyre blowout, falling trees, sink holes. Pikey neighbours, over-bearing bosses, redundancy, takeover, disciplinary action, legal action, subsidence, lightning strikes. Getting too fat, getting too thin, going bald, being too hariy, accidental indecent exposure, spiders, vermin, woodworm...

Where do you stop?

I like to think of my passage through life, so far, being like that coyote who pursued the roadrunner. He never fell or came unstuck until he looked down.

https://cdn.thefiscaltimes.com/sites/default/files/styles/article_hero_image/public/articles/10152012_WileECoyote1_article.jpg?itok=ZKbOOouf

So you'd better not look down*

*credit to BB King, no royalties due

Edit: In b4 someone implies Sid is the roadrunner.
____________________
Whether you think you can, or think you can't, you're probably right

[ScaredyCat]

[faffergotgunz]

'No regrets'.

An everlasting target, that involves me thinking it, then just having to do it.

Dont want to be on a death bed with regrets of wasted life. Makes me feel sick.
____________________
Sent from Samsmums mobile using Tapanarse

[dodsi]

Live my life in great shoes and on an expensive sofa.

Because people are rarely interested in your Travel stories.

[garth]

Life is short. Play with your willy.
____________________
You ain't a has been if you never was

[Feasty]

I'm liking the replies, thanks guys. Seems the boat I'm in is actually more of a very full cruise ship!

I agree it does keep the relationship more healthy and interesting not having all the same standards, ideas or principles all the time - it just makes her extremely annoying instead!

skatefreak - as for kids coming along, it does change things. Mostly in a good way, I wouldn't be without my daughter for the world. She keeps me going as she's so funny and we get on really well. She's definitely a daddy's girl. I want to do my best for her and bring her up best I can - which leads me to behaving well and setting good examples.
Unfortunately we could only have the one, and that leads to dealing with favouritism between my wife and I which is stressful at times.

Also, when my daughter was about 3 a horse decided to jump in front of my bike and write it off, along with my shoulder. This led to the in-laws quickly buying us a 2nd car so I didn't need the bike (I wonder why they did that then!). Very nice of them, but it's meant I haven't had the reason to get another bike yet - nor do we really have the finances for it at the moment.
____________________
Previous: Aprilia Habana Retro 50cc (beauty), Yamaha SR125 (fell apart), Honda XR125 (nippy little commuter), Honda SLR650 (Geewhizz), Yamaha Diversion 900S (Smoooooth) written off courtesy of a stupid escaped horse.
(7 year gap), BMW F650 (Relaxing ride). Aprilia Caponord ETV1000 (Big and bold). Yamaha FZS600 (got me in trouble too quick!).
Current: Yamaha TDM 900 (Comfy, light but big, power when needed).

[Jewlio Rides Again LLB]

Take a good, long look at what you have. Decide if you're happy. I mean properly happy. If you aren't, fuck it off.

If you aren't sure, put yourself in the scenario that the one you love is terminally ill, and could go at any time. That will help you decide whether or not you really are happy. Worked for me.
____________________
Mpd72: I can categorically say i’m Brighter than that, no matter how I come across on here.
HAHAHA HAHAHA Blew Chilly MyCrowSystems

[M.C]

I'm quite chilled out but always seem to have stressy things going on. I think I'd be happiest in a cave on my own but I'm scared to try it in case I'm wrong

[colink98]

Everyone has a right to an opinion and everyone has a right to live their life how they see fit, but they also have a right to live a solitary and miserable life.

If two people are going to live together then compromise is the key.
____________________
PCX125 (stolen) - CBF600 (current)
Ride it like you stole it.
ride sensible and not like an idiot and you wont get 6 points in one week.

[stevo as b4]

Don't try and have all the big goals, the places to go, the must see's and do's before you die etc. It gets tiring and less fulfilling chasing your dreams the more of it you do and the harder you work to achieve it. Also the more you do and see the more your opening yourself for disappointment and wanting more.

These days I'm happy doing anything from a having a run round the block, planting new heathers in my garden and seeing stuff grow, or spending half a day down the canal and catching a small perch after four hours of being cold. Putting a new sparkplug in my bike or changing the oil makes me happy, as does going for a swim and only managing a few lengths because I forgot my asthma inhaler etc.

I went away abroad on holiday this year for the first time in 3years, it was good and I enjoyed it, but I'm equally looking forward to having a week in Devon at the end of the month too.

Its a big world out there and I ain't ever going to see a fraction of it, so I'll spend my time enjoying the little stuff I can do and see with no care given to what else could be out there waiting for me.

[Fladdem]

[hellkat]

We're quite alike in personality, and I utterly adore my fella, quite a lot of our ethics and values are the same, and there's only a year's age difference between us, so we grew up with similar influences.

But our life experiences are VASTLY different, and that makes it interesting. Having said that, I do sometimes struggle to live within the life that I seem to have become a part of. But I wouldnt have it any other way cos he is very luvly *


*as much as Proper Geezers can be considered to be "luvly"
____________________
Not nearly as interesting in real life.

[P.addy]

[iooi]

[Piercee100]

I would have to say that my life is fairly stressful. My lovely wife is bit of a potato mentally, a retired model that's starting to let her looks slide, but the sex is still kinky and great! Have 4 kids, and I work stupid hours for stupid pay but I have plans for the future so it's all work hard, save now spend later.

Really need to decorate the front room too. Damn I'm negative today.
____________________
Rides: Honda H100a (Retired), VT500e (Sold), Kawasaki ZX400 (sold), Kawasaki GT550 (Sold), Suzuki Inazuma (Daily), Honda CD185t (Broken), LML Star 2t (Last run edition).