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 Louise World Chat Champion

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 Posted: 19:37 - 15 Apr 2009 Post subject: Is age really a factor? - R/ship thread =) |
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As most of you know I had a pretty big break up with someone of 5 years back in Dec/Jan - pretty poor time for me as I also lost my job.
Didnt think the 'pain' would go away.
Last week a friend told me to message a girl (who messaged her) because she was pretty 'hot'
So I did and I got a response.
Spoke on MSN and swapped numbers.
The next day we met - only for an hour as she had to leave for home and yeah she is really nice - but I didnt think nothing of it - she is pretty trendy and what I would call a 'fit' bird.
Anyhow - from her text I got the hint she liked me and we decided to meet this weekend gone at a bar with mates - I was really nervous as I thought she was pretty. But I got really shy as normal and didnt speak to her - in the end she text me saying I was looking really nice and for once she was nervous.
After a while we chatted, then got cosy in the garden and had a few kisses.
Now since then we have seen each other every day, cuddles kisses and getting along really fine.
I cant seem to get my head around that im a simple/plain dressed girl and shes really trendy, fantastic smile/laugh & she likes me.
She has said she really likes me but im torn - she is 20 - dose act allot older but thats not the point.
I promised myself not to date younger people because some can be head cases.
Only thing Im weary of is that she broke up with her ex last week of 2.5 years but she assured me its not rebound and them splitting up was a long time coming.
Shes told her ex about me and the truth - he ex wants to kill me  as we know each other aswell
But I am really happy at the moment - the first time in months - I have a smile from ear to ear.
Were not dating, were taking things slow and were both enjoying each others company - but I still have something at the back of my mind =(
Is age a factor, your opinions - I am 25 - 26 in Oct
Its only 5 years but still - Maybe my defence is getting to me more then it should?! |
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 Posted: 19:48 - 15 Apr 2009 Post subject: |
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20 year olds are generally dangerous. My mate is currently juggling two mind-gamey 20 year olds (not literally, that would be very cool to see though), it saps my will to live just hearing about it!
Have some fun if it seems right, but I'd be very careful. Remember you are still vulnerable and will naturally be flattered by (especially young and trendy) attention.
You appear not to have two heads, or masses of skin boils, so it's safe to assume she won't be the only lass to express interest.
Just keep things slow and be wary of any signs of mentalness - clingyness, jealousy etc. As long as the smile stays on your face, and no-one's getting hurt, carry on!
If the smile seems to fade, then it's time to take a good look at things.  ____________________ CBR125|||GSXR400|||CBR400|||CBR400|||CB250RS|||GSXR750|||CB250RS
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 Posted: 19:56 - 15 Apr 2009 Post subject: |
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Although I'm not the best person to ask...
It seems to me you are attempting to find a reason as to keep yourself single, ie she is so trendy and pretty more so than me why is she wanting me....
And now age...
I say just ride it enjoy whatever comes of it and deal with any issues that arise hidden under the surface as they come...
Oh and https://bikechatforums.com/files/images_142.jpg  ____________________ Spain 2008France 2007Big one 2009 We all die. The goal isn't to live forever, the goal is to create something that will. In the end, your life will flash before your eyes. Make sure it is worth watching. |
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My Missus is fourteen years older than me, I know that's of no help to you tbh but...
Anyway, stop picking flies out of the situation and give it a go, just take it steady...  ____________________ Previous Bikes...Honda NSR 125 RR...Kawasaki Zephyr 550...Suzuki SV 1000 S...Yamaha FZ8...Current Bike...Suzuki GSX-R 750... |
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Just get on with it and have some fun,you deserve it, . |
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 Louise World Chat Champion

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Hi, let yer hair down and have fun. Don't take it too serious. Both of you have recently split from past partners from what i can gather.
Glad you've got a new plaything
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Hi Louise, not an easy answer really as it all depends on the individual.
I met my current fella when i was 29, i was married (not happily) with 2 kids and he was 17 and a half (yeh get the kiddy fiddler jibes over)
anyway we worked together and got on like 2 peas in a pod, he was very mature and i was a bit of a kid so we molded...anyhooo we got together on his 18th was suppose to be a one nighter but 15 years later we're still together and very very happy,
we still say it seems like we've only been together for a couple of years....we have friends from the age of 20 to 60 and no one can see an age gap as we're so much alike.
like i say it's all about the individual and how they are.
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 Posted: 20:22 - 15 Apr 2009 Post subject: |
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 Posted: 20:26 - 15 Apr 2009 Post subject: |
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Until January this year, I always had an 8 year rule in place. Then I met someone 11 years my junior who was too cute not to date!!
But I do think it's down to the individuals involved, some people just click and it would be a damn shame not to see where it goes, see if it has legs...if not you'll always be wondering what if? And that's not a good thing to carry for the rest of your life.
At the end of the day, go with your gut feeling. And good luck. And have fun!!! ____________________ Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter, and those who matter won't mind - Dr. Seuss |
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 Posted: 20:36 - 15 Apr 2009 Post subject: |
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Photos dont really do justice - shes a right sweety which makes me smile alot!
& if she finds this thread ill be dumped before we even started 
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Age is only a problem if you let it be!
There's 4 years between my partner and i, and when we got together i was 16 and he was 20. No big deal! It's all about how you get on with each other and how you treat each other.
If she turns out to be an immature teenager that does you nut in then end it. At least that way you'll never be thinking 'what if?'.
Just don't write this off because you've been burned before by younger girlfriends. Everyone is different! Go for it!  ____________________ "One moment can change a day, one day can change a life and one life can change the world." Siddhartha Gautama |
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do NOT take it seriously
its ALL about the fun Louise! Just have a laugh, and upload some sex vids, and enjoy yourself!
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 Posted: 12:12 - 16 Apr 2009 Post subject: |
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Louise, she is no prettier than you are , you have no need to worry there
Life can be so confusing, n' don't I know it Reading this thread has confused even more (ref age) . . . .
Take it easy, don't expect too much, but dont let any concerns get in the way.
nice one, it good to here your happy. |
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If I was you I'd be in about that like a tramp eating chips - have fun, dont fall hard and enjoy the ride. 5 years is nothing.  |
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Go for it, have fun and age is just a number.
BTW, you should have no doubts about your looks Louise  ____________________ Enjoy everyday, tell those you love everyday you love them
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Cheers for the advice
Had another good afternoon with her and things just seem to be going smooth.
She knows I took this and I think it suits my bike
I spoke to her about a few things today - one thing I have learnt from my last relationship - if you want to ask things, then ask - dont bottle them up like I did before. |
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Coo, if you don't do her, I will!!
Stop questioning everything ya nutcase and sit on her face!!!  ____________________ Keeping The Nation Pissed
Do not anticipate trouble or worry about what may never happen. Keep in the sunlight. ~Benjamin Franklin |
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Old Thread Alert!
The last post was made 16 years, 363 days ago. Instead of replying here, would creating a new thread be more useful? |
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