Girlfriend issues! Help me out mighty BCF!

TwoWheelsDail... · Scooby Slapper Joined: 23 Oct 2012 Karma :

Hi folks,

Feeling abit down and thought I should try and talk about it instead of getting down in the dumps!

Basically,

I have been with my girlfriend for a year and a half. I'm 21, she is 39 Wink

She has been ill for the last few weeks and has been thinking about moving to Devon. Just so your aware Devon is a good 4 hours from where I live.

I obviously don't want her to move but she is pretty much set in her ways, the only thing that is stopping her is me. (Her words not mine)

I think that she is getting very stressed about this all as I have told her I'm not moving as I have a very close relationship with my family and I have a great job, she wants to move to the middle of nowhere, no jobs no nothing.

Last night she went off on one, shouting, screaming, saying "I'm sick of people organising me, everyone can fuck off. All I want is to be happy and it's so hard for everybody else to let me be happy!" She kept on about the organising thing.

Now I don't try to organise her at all, I live on my own but spend 3 or 4 days a week at hers. I don't ever actually organise her, I ask if I can help out at all but we tend to do our own thing most of the time unless we are watching tv, chatting etc.

She quit her job a few months ago and is now at home with her two kids all day.

Have I actually done anything wrong or is she just venting all the pent up worries on me? She hasn't spoken to me all day, normally she texts me a few times a day. We have argued a few times before but she always talks to me still, even if it is short texts etc.

Do I just leave her for a while to let her come to her sences?

Cheers.
Benn
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pinkyfloyd · Super Spammer Joined: 20 Jul 2010 Karma :

A few things that may not help.

Why does she want to move to Devon? I can understand you not wanting to go. Moving is a huge upheaval and new job etc can cause serious stress.

Second thing. You're 21. She's pushing 40. I'm not going to be all agest or anything but you have your life ahead of you. If she is that set on moving away then let her go. If you do not want to go with her then move on. You're still young. No matter how much love there is in a relationship one thing I have noticed is you eventually get over every hurt.
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Lord Percy · World Chat Champion Joined: 03 Aug 2012 Karma :

Sounds like she's having a massive mid-life crisis.

Typically (google told me) when people are stressed, depressed, or unhappy in any way, they get the urge to 'just get away from it all', and have fanciful ideas of packing their things up and just going to a whole new life and it being a magical utopia on the other side.

I kind of had these sorts of ideas after 4ish years in the worst job of my life. General boredom, no sense of control or direction, every day seems utterly pointless, hence thoughts of escape seem wonderful. Maybe she's in a similar frame of mind?

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Clutchy · World Chat Champion Joined: 08 Nov 2011 Karma :

She's old and crazy...

Why are you still with her!?
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JonB · Afraid of Mileage Joined: 03 Jun 2004 Karma :

Old enough to be your mum.

You've got the rest of your life ahead of you. She has baggage.

Plenty more fish in the sea and all that.
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pics?
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Nb · World Chat Champion Joined: 17 May 2005 Karma :

Sack her off and get real ffs. Theres age gap and that gap, step away!!!! Shocked

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Rogerborg · nimbA Joined: 26 Oct 2010 Karma :

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[Pat|screw] her [on|in] the arse, wave a cheery goodbye. You're 21, knock off the mid life angst.
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Wafer_Thin_Ham · Super Spammer Joined: 18 Nov 2005 Karma :

Bin her off. Go and bag some slags.
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Nobby the Bastard · Harley Gaydar Joined: 16 Aug 2013 Karma :

How would being in Dorset/Bahamas/New Zealand stop her from being ill?
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-Matt- · World Chat Champion Joined: 28 Apr 2013 Karma :

I'd move on personally. I know 'age doesnt matter' and 'it can work', which of course it can but longterm the reality is 20 years down the line the situation may become a lot more problematic. Get out and enjoy your young life with young people Thumbs Up

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If you're having girl problems I feel bad for you son...

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wr6133 · World Chat Champion Joined: 31 Dec 2013 Karma :

Bin her. Why do you want to be with a woman nearly twice your age with 2 kids that ain't yours? You are 21 you should be out there nailing everything with a pulse and short skirt.... if you don't you'll regret it by the time you are 30!

Also think of this....... soon she will dry up and your sex life will consist of the sensation of shagging a crinkled up loose old envelope.

and 39 years old, 2 kids and no man..... she clearly is nuts/psycho/bunny boiler/shit in bed and you simply have failed to smell the man repellent she is emitting.